The Self-Deprecating Musician

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The other day someone I hadn’t seen in a while in the music community didn’t recognize me right away, so to be “funny”, I said, “I don’t expect anyone to remember me,” and I laughed. He immediately cringed and was visibly uncomfortable which made me think I had said something wrong. All my life I have “downplayed” myself--I always told myself it was because I didn’t want to appear to be some egotistical “artist,” as creatives are already thought of often as “full of themselves” as their work appears to be so centered on self-exploration. I also thought it was a healthy practice to “make fun” of oneself as a lighthearted way to put people at ease, but lately I have been cringing more and more at my “self-jabs.”

 Apparently, being self-deprecating has become “my thing”-so much so that it was printed in a local newspaper that, “Onstage, Brando cuts a personable figure with her taste for vintage dresses, homemade earrings and self-deprecating humor.” Seeing it in print made me wonder if my self-deprecation really WAS about putting others at ease or something more unsavory.

 I feel like having a healthy sense of humor and being able to laugh at oneself is extremely important-and I love comedians who are able to turn the humor onto themselves, but when does it become a cover up?

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 As a creative person and a musician, I always had self-confidence issues that I dealt with-I dodged every compliment; not wanting people to think that I thought what I created was, “a big deal”, or that I was special in any way… but as I grew as a producing artist and was working really hard at it and wanting to be compensated for my work-as I negotiated my pay I had to ask myself, “what am I worth?”

 After two tours now, the last of which I thought I would die from exhaustion; and all the positive feedback and appreciation I have been receiving for my skills, unique songs and professionalism-I realized that what I did WAS rare, and that not everyone can do it, so why deprecate myself?

 What IS the line between being able to laugh at yourself and hiding behind a façade of not caring? It’s a line that I am continuously exploring; between not apologizing on stage, to being able to take a compliment without an aside, to reminding those other musicians that struggle with this that they have something to say that’s important, have unique skills and that it’s o.k. to be proud of it. Being proud is not being arrogant-so let’s celebrate our accomplishments and hard work!!


How do you celebrate yourself and your successes?

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Giving In is not Giving Up

I recently read a blog about a fellow singer songwriter in the Los Angeles community who passed away from cancer at a young age. Her name is Jenny Pagliaro and she belongs to a duo called, “Roses and Cigarettes.” I did not know her, but the info that she had passed away popped up on my Facebook news feed and I clicked on the link. She had been documenting her journey on a blog called “The Breast Cancer Chronicles” and I read her last blog post titled, “Giving In.” It was posted on December 10th, 2018. A little more than a year later, she was gone.

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Glow Living-An Interview with Chandra Lynn

In my quest to find resources out there to help me stay focused and positive-I met Chandra Lynn. She was conducting a live interview at NAMM-a major music convention in Anaheim, California. It was for her “Lessons Learned” series, an inspiring interview series with folks discussing often difficult topics and how they overcame them and included interviews with people in the music industry. As a musician struggling in this tough business, I found them very inspiring and checked out her website, Glow Living, for more. Besides the “Lessons Learned” series, I found all sorts of inspiration, and have linked Chandra’s blog on health and wellness to our Music Emerging data base of inspirational websites. I talked with Chandra about Glow Living, specific supports for those in the music industry, and her new program, “Root-to-Rise.


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Entrepreneur and owner of two businesses, Chandra leads Glow Marketing LLC to assist executives in meeting business and career goals, and Glow Living to help people live a life they love.

Prior to launching her own business in 2000, Chandra held management positions at legendary entertainment producers and media. Most notably, Avid Inc., the leader in audio and video; Tickets.com; Bill Graham Presents/Live Nation; New Bay Media; San Francisco Magazine; and KFOG Radio/Cumulus Media, Inc.

Chandra currently balances business consulting; life coaching; creating educational and entertainment programs; public speaking; and being the best mother she can be. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and is into yoga, fitness and vegetarianism for a healthy body, mind and spirit.


M.E.  “When did you expand from marketing into the personal growth and wellness arena?”

 C.L.  “Personal growth and health/wellness have always been a focus in my personal life, and in 2011, I decided to get a coaching certification to bring it into my career. I’d known for a while before that I had a higher calling to do something even more purposeful than providing marketing services. Another aspect is that as a service-based business, I don’t have anything that I own and sell besides my time. It’s just not scalable so I decided then to create a purpose-built brand for myself, Glow Living. After supporting so many other brands, I knew that I had the capacity to create my own to build equity and an exit strategy, all while leaving a legacy of helping people at my highest level. Now, I’m on track to be among the first to bridge the music and wellness industries!”

 M.E.  “What is your unique approach as you continue to transition into the field of personal growth and wellness?”

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 C.L.  “I created a unique coaching framework called Root-to-Rise to help people love life through improved live-work balance and greater fulfillment in their personal lives and careers. It gives people a friendly system for balancing their “Life Root System”, clearing personal obstacles, gracefully navigating emotions, connecting to their truest authenticity, and rising to reach their higher life purpose. Its available as self-paced online courses and live workshops for individuals and groups.

Related to the music industry, I feel like there’s really not that many people focusing on this type of service, so right now I have plans to do this bigger. When you look at musicians lifestyles, they are perfect examples of all of these issues on a magnified level. They’re creative professionals and they have challenges unblocking their creative energy; dealing with anxieties; managing challenging relationships because of alternative lifestyles; being on the road, in the studio, working nights and weekends with different deadlines and pressures. They also have to show up as a good and reliable partner or parent perhaps, and keep up a slick public persona. I’ve worked with lots of musicians and I’ve seen how Root-to-Rise has helped them live a more balanced and purposeful life. Because musicians are highly influential, I’m hoping my strategies for how to cope and thrive in difficult circumstances will reach a lot of people through a ripple effect.”

 M.E. “What’s an example of how Root-to-Rise helps musicians?”

 C.L. “For example, a musician on the road my be soaring in their career, but then their relationships may suffer, kids aren’t getting attention or maybe they're not eating well and don't have time to exercise. So if you look at each one of those as a root; the success root is really strong but the health root is really weakened, and without that health root, you can't have the successful career. At the end of the process of evaluating your root system, you can clearly see the priority you have at a given time because we can't do everything all at once; the first part of the program call ROOTS starts with an evaluation process of the Life Root System. Then in the second part called RISE, and it moves into the balance of body, mind and spirit, and then creating and manifesting a clear vision of the future that is connected to a higher purpose. I’ve already taught the courses and found that it leads to a ton of A-HA moments about why people are making the decisions they make that are responsible for their current life conditions. The testimonials are flooding in now and are on Glow Living’s YouTube channel.”

 M.E. “Do you have any advice for musicians that are on a budget that feel they can't get involved in support programs because of funds?”

 C.L. “I have a ton of free resources on glowliving.com including video interviews with celebrities like guitar great Steve Vai. I feel I’ve priced Root-to-Rise competitively considering the level of deep dive offered. And, I’m happy to offer your readers a discount if they email me and say they were referred by you! Three other freebies:”

1. Sign up for my free newsletter on my glowliving.com homepage using the Start to Glow button.
2. Take my free quiz to help understand what is driving the decisions that are responsible for your current life conditions. http://www.glowliving.com/needsquiz
3. Download my free gratitude journal at http://www.glowliving.teachable.com

 M.E. “Any community-based resources?”

C.L. “Absolutely. There are tons of other websites offering free resources. For in-person support, they can look at Meetup, Facebook Groups and Events, Eventbrite and Linkedin Events. It's really about being resourceful. YouTube is full of videos that are free about fitness and yoga, healthy cooking, and all kinds of things can help people. I just caution people to use critical thinking and look into the credibility of the sources when considering their advice. There are a lot of people that position themselves as experts that really are not.”

M.E. “Musicians are basically having to become entrepreneurs in the current music market and have to deal with a lot of different areas of their career. It's very time consuming. Do you advocate sacrificing part of your career goals to focus more on your health?”

C.L. “It's possible that there are actually time wasters going on that could free up time to balance your roots, including the health root. For example, if you are marketing music, it's a lot of work keeping up with social media, photos, and everything so what I would say is that you don't actually have to be on every social media platform. I personally advocate choosing one you're most comfortable with and then do that one really well. You can also use a service to publish your posts onto other platforms. If you are not a tweeter, for example, you can relieve yourself from that and focus on a platform you're more comfortable with. I think it's okay that we're not on every social media platform. People just need to know where to find you. There are also people out there that want to experience working with musicians and they can use you in their resume in exchange for some support. You can ask for 10 or 15 hours a week perhaps. A lot of students in schools are looking for internships and some schools will even offer college credit.

I also block out specific times to work on my career or go to the gym. You have to schedule that stuff and actually commit to sticking to it, even if it means forgoing other things. Even though musicians are creatives and maybe want to free flow with their time, it's always important that they become dedicated to looking at time management tips and how to better structure time. For instance, while meditating, you're opening up a channel for creativity that may give a deeper level of creative flow you wouldn't have had without it. So instead of struggling to connect with the flow, you're inviting it in, creating a conduit for it. For myself, I'm not a master meditator and I also have time management issues. But I've seen when I have allowed the time for meditation and yoga, I am much more tapped into bigger visions and better ideas. Sometimes choosing a block period like one month; and choose to do a 20-minute guided meditation at a certain time and if at the end of that month you are not really seeing the benefits you were hoping for. Then you change it up. Hopefully you learned something and allowed yourself to see if that was a good channel for your creativity.

I believe that a lot of creative moments are in the spaces between. Where does inspiration come from? Sometimes while you're playing or being creative because you allowed the flow, but a lot of the time it's when you're doing other things and not focused on trying to create something. You can also journal your thoughts after doing something healthy and see what comes out.

Consider this thought, “It's up to me to recognize the possibility and step through to the other side.”

 M.E. “How can people learn more about Root-to-Rise and your coaching services?”

I’d love to invite all of your readers to go to glowliving.com and follow my social pages that are linked from the site. Thank you so much for this interview and your continued interest in my journey to help people, especially music industry pros, love life!!

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Glow Living's Root-to-Rise training programs help you love life. Enroll to improve live-work balance and fulfillment in your personal life and career. Based on yoga philosophy and human needs psychology, you will embark on a journey to balance your “Life Root System”, clear personal obstacles, gracefully navigate emotions, connect to your truest authenticity, and rise to reach your higher life purpose. Root-to-Rise is available as online courses and live workshops for individuals and companies.

More writings from Music Emerging:

A Simple Wish

Age is Just a Number: Aging in the Music Industry

Your Music’s Not Literal Enough: Story Songs vs. Poetic Songs

We welcome your COMMENTS below! Music Emerging responds to every comment! Click “Subscribe via-email” to get an email alert when a new comment appears.








Happy New Year-You Are a Badass

I always hated the holidays. Although I have had pretty much only lucky and good ones, it reminds me of hard times growing up, guilt and loneliness. This holiday I woke up alone on Christmas morning and was sick in bed for several days-left to evaluate my life; to put it under the microscope once again.

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